Thirteen Reasons Why…and One Reason Why Not.

As I am sure many of you have by now, or soon will if you have yet to discover, binge watched 13 Reasons Why. I came across an article about it and was intrigued by it, this particular subject hits home with me in more ways than one and I was curious to see how someone portrayed the topic through a mini-series.

“Thirteen Reasons Why, based on the best-selling books by Jay Asher, follows teenager Clay Jensen (Dylan Minnette) as he returns home from school to find a mysterious box with his name on it lying on his porch. Inside he discovers a group of cassette tapes recorded by Hannah Baker (Katherine Langford) -his classmate and crush-who tragically committed suicide two weeks earlier. On tape, Hannah unfolds an emotional audio diary, detailing the thirteen reasons why she decided to end her life. Through Hannah and Clay’s dual narratives, Thirteen Reasons Why weaves an intricate and heartrending story of confusion and desperation that will deeply affect viewers.” Written by Studio

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After completing 13 emotionally raw episodes as Hannah goes through the events that led up to her death, I was left with an empty feeling and an overwhelming sadness that even though this was just a television show, things like this happen every day. It happened to me. It happened to friends of mine as we were growing up. It has happened to close family and loved ones. It happens every day, all over the world and frankly is not talked about enough.

In case you choose to never read the book that inspired the series or watch it for yourself, I’ll shed some light on the “reasons” why she ultimately took her own life. (Potential spoiler alert)

She was a high school girl that was fairly popular who ended up losing all of her close friends and soon found herself feeling all alone. As a result of bullying through simple “normal” high school antics, it all struck a chord with her that left her feeling worthless. She was abused mentally, physically, and spiritually until she felt like there was nothing left of her. She even tried to seek help, but was made to feel as if she was not worth the help or that there was nothing that she could ultimately do about it, except forget it and move on. Every part of her was broken, lost, confused and she felt hopeless.

I have yet to share my story with you all and plan on doing it soon.. But, I have been there before. High school was not easy for me, as much as I was great at hiding it. I lost friends that had been in my life since kindergarten, which when you are 16 years old feels like your entire life. I was abused mentally, physically, and spiritually. I thought about suicide more times than I would like to admit and even failed at it once or twice. I got to a point in my life where there was nothing left for me and I was completely disgusted with myself and everything about who I was and what I was doing in this world.

and that’s when Jesus stepped in.

I won’t say it happened in one day or even in one moment, it was a collection of days that came to a head to make me decide to push for life, instead of death. No matter how long I had been running or how far I had run, Jesus loved me and He wanted me to live. I could have easily came up with 13 reasons why I did not want to live on this earth anymore, but it took me finding only 1 reason why I should surrender and stay, and that was Jesus.

We are not so different from Jesus in our trials and unfortunate circumstances. Jesus was blameless and yet He was still;

Betrayed

Abandoned

Rejected

Falsely accused

Mocked

Physically Abused

Spit on

Shamed

Crucified

All for us.

He loved us so much that He wanted to bear the weight of the world, the weight of sin, everything terrible thing that you and I have done, or have yet to do, or that has been done to us. He took it all so that we would be forgiven and if so choose, get to spend eternity with Him in Heaven.

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It was that truth that saved me. It is that truth that I want to save everyone with. It is that truth that has me sitting here writing to you today asking you;

Please, do not give up. Reach out for help. Even when it is hardest to think about your family and loved ones, especially in the moments when you feel like they could care less, it is not true. They care, they love you so much. He loves you so much. I do not even know you, and I love you so much. You are worth it. You have a purpose. You were chosen for something beautiful and you can only find out what that is if you stay.

For those of you who have never dealt with anything like this before, give thanks to the Lord that you have not had to experience such pain. But more than that, make sure that you are not a part of someone else’s pain. As hard as that might be to hear, everything we do or say impacts the world and those around us. It is our job to be kind to others, to love and be loved in return, to help those who need it, and simply be there for others who need someone. When someone gets to the point in their life that they are even thinking about taking their own, they will not tell you and you will not know, which is why we have to be proactive in making sure it never gets to that point.

If someone you know and love is going through a tough time, take a moment out of your day and reach out. It could possibly mean life or death. If someone you know is going through a hard time and is suddenly happy and content, reach out. Even if someone is not going through a hard time, reach out. If you are that someone, reach out.

Be there for others.

Love and be loved.

Choose Jesus.

Stay blessed,

Beautiful Southern Heart

19 thoughts on “Thirteen Reasons Why…and One Reason Why Not.

  1. Painfully true. We need to ask the Holy Spirit if there’s anybody that needs us to reach out to them at this critical point in their life and if we’re the cause of such pain. He knows. We should also ask Him what to do and how to do it.

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  2. I hadn’t heard of this book/film but I am glad to hear that it moved you in such a way to inspire this post. This post is heavy and, I am positive, resonates with a lot of people. It is so critical that we take caution in how we treat others. We are all in different walks of life and you never know how you can impact someone else’s. We may be the only Jesus someone ever gets to see.

    Father, teach us how to love like you love. Break our hearts for what breaks yours and lead us to be compassionate toward everyone in our paths. May we ever be an expression of your love for us all!

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    1. I hadn’t either until I read the article a few weeks ago. I do not think I could read the book, watching the mini series was hard enough. It was really good though, very honest and real and sad.

      It is important, we truly have no idea what type of impact we have on someone else’s life. You are right girl. Yes, break our hearts for what breaks yours! Amen.

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  3. “everything we do or say impacts the world and those around us” Loved this, and try to do good by this quote. Great post, and it now makes me want to watch this series. Or maybe read the books, I’m not a T.V. watcher. 😉

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  4. I think I only have one or two episodes left to watch of this. I’m sorry you went through such rough times, it seems like few of us make it out of our school days without some kind of scars, whether mental or physical! Even I didn’t escape unscathed and I had no major issues, always had friends, didn’t do badly in school, was never bullied or ostracised…. I’m glad you survived and thrived!

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    1. I binged watched it when I was sick a couple of weeks ago. Which makes it 1000x more intense because it’s the only emotions you feel for awhile and it sucks. No worries girl, all of my previous experiences are a part of what made me who I am today. I have no regrets. Yes, that’s true. It’s crazy because they truly do not tell you that high school is going to be tough or that you need thick skin to get through it, even like me that had everything going for me, it can be so rough depending. This is a topic that should be discussed more openly with children, not suicide exactly, but what to look forward to in your high school years and how to avoid it or make a difference. Thanks girl, me too!

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