Then There Was Her

Some people arrive and make such a beautiful impact on your life you can barely remember what life was like without them. That happened to me sixteen years ago when I met my best friend, who I am blessed to still have in my life today.

I never had any friends in my life, like the one’s I had when I was twelve. Stand by Me

We were eleven years old, it was the sixth grade, and we thought we were the coolest kids ever. We totally were not. When I look back at pictures of us then, I cannot help but laugh at our sense of style and remember our stinky teenage girl attitudes. We were inseparable then and I loved every moment I got to spend with her, even the moments when we were fighting and at each other’s throats, which happened more than I would like to admit. Every moment with her was an adventure and we made some really great memories. Middle school was an interesting time in our lives, one of the best, and I honestly have never had any friends later on in life like the ones I had when I was twelve.

Later into our teenage years, we got a little wild. We drove our mother’s crazy and we were rebellious in ways that make me scared now that I am a mother. But, we did it together and had so much fun doing it! If I had a chance to go back and change some of the insanely stupid choices that we made, I would not change one thing. Those memories helped mold us into the women we are today, which if you asked me, I would say are some pretty amazing people.

Into our later teenage years, we drifted apart, tried different things, and made new friends. We did not see each every day and sometimes would go months without talking to each other. This was a very different time in our lives where we were really trying to spread our wings and find ourselves. She was this free spirited fun loving girl that did not really care about what other people thought about her. She had ambition and studied really hard so she could graduate early and move on with her life. She was one of our only friends to have a job at fifteen and became one of the hardest workers I have ever met with a drive and love for life like I have never seen before.  We were polar opposites. I cared about what everyone thought of me, I rarely threw caution to the wind and although I am proud to say I am a hard worker now, I really wasted some valuable time in my late teenage years.

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart – Elizabeth Foley

They say opposites attract and in our case that could not have been truer. She has always been the yin to my yang, the left to my right, and gin to my tonic. There was a point when we were “really becoming ourselves” that I thought I might lose her. There was another time in our early twenties when I thought that I really had. But God had different plans for us, that I am so incredibly thankful for, which taught us that the most beautiful discovery true friends can make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.

Fast forward a couple of years and we both became moms. This is comical because she would swear to you that I said I would never have kids as long as I live (which is totally not true) and I would swear the same about her. But here we are, mid-twenties, two kids deep and loving every bit of it. I have two amazing little boys that complete me and all that I am, and she has two beautiful little girls that compliment every part of who she is.

I found my forever seven years ago and we have been happily married for nearly six. She found her forever four years ago and this coming October they will be starting their lives together as husband and wife, and I will proudly get to stand next to her. With tears I’m sure, but so much love and admiration for her and her soon to be that I could not have better hand-picked him myself, knowing her better than anyone else.

We live in two different states now and we get to see each other a couple of times a year if we are lucky. We try to talk to each other as much as we can and when life is not overwhelming us, sometimes that is every day. When I got her card in the mail asking me to be her Matron of Honor; I cried, because I’m a huge baby. But mostly because I am so incredibly happy for her, that she found someone who loves her so much and takes such amazing care of her, and because she still loves me today just as much as she did when we were eleven and wants me to stand next to her on the most important day of her life.

Most people do not get so lucky, to find their best friends when they are eleven and grow with them throughout life. But we did and it really is the coolest thing ever. This year will mark seventeen years with one of my most favorite people on the whole planet and I could not be more thankful to God for giving her to me!

She asked, and I said yes.

6 thoughts on “Then There Was Her

  1. “The most beautiful discovery true friends can make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”
    I completely agree on this 🙂 I simply loved this post. This relates to me and my Besties to a certain extent.. certain extent because we are currently in our teen phrase.

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